shamelesslyunladylike:

Men never fail to impress me with how fucking shameless they are.

I usually bring my laptop to work so I can do some 3D modelling on my downtime. Today I was working on a model I’ve been ironing out for the last few days. It’s a bust of an East Asian style dragon, which I started doing specifically so I could practice sculpting flowing, curvy shapes on Zbrush. My coworker - the unpleasant, boundary-ignoring, teen-girl-ogling one - has been watching me model and often giving praise. He dabbles at 3D modelling himself, but hasn’t been studying for as long as I have and doesn’t have the same theorical art background. Which means I’m considerably better than him.

Today the dude gets to work and first thing he does is pulling a drawing pad out of his backpack and saying “I have an idea, and I’ll make you accept it even if I have to threaten to give you cyanide”.

Yes, that was an excelent start. Death threats with a big smile. Classy.

So he starts rambling about how we should make a 3D scene together, and his idea of a scene is a shack with a big burly viking dude holding an axe (which I would have to model, since he “doesn’t do organic modelling”), some furniture and… my dragon head stuffed and mounted on a wall. He would do the background, he says.

He also points that I would have to do texturing and render, since he’s not good at those parts either. And he continues rambling, with a huge fucking smile on his face, about how this would be “really good for our portfolios” and would “give us both a lot of visibility”.

The funny thing is that the part that offended me first is that he wanted to take my dragon and mount it on a wall. I made a bust because the purpose of this specific model is practice on the shapes of the whiskers and mane of the dragon. Doing the body would not give me the kind of practice I want. But all this man saw was a decapitated head of a beautiful beast he could mount on a wall and display as his.

And isn’t it a good metaphor of the whole situation? A man sees a skilled woman, a woman who’s way more skilled than he is, and instead of wanting to learn from her, he wants to seize her and mount her on a wall. In this case, he wanted to use the knowledge and craftsmanship that I acquired over almost a decade of study and make me labor for his benefit - to mount me on his portfolio wall, or his facebook wall, for everyone to see. And he tries to sweeten the deal by telling me a half-truth, that if I made a well rendered scene, people would appreciate it. It would give me “visibility”.

The full truth is that yes, it would. But I don’t need him to do that. He doesn’t have anything to offer me in return for my work, he doesn’t have anything to give me that I can’t get myself. He’s not offering me money, knowledge or valuable networking. He just wants to take something he knows he doesn’t have, because he likes it and he feels entitled to have it. Take my work and reframe it on a typical male dominance context. The man kills the dragon and mounts it on a wall. And this man, with a smile on his face, threatened to poison me if I didn’t mount myself on his wall.

And of course, I won’t do it. My dragon is alive and free, and doesn’t belong in anyone’s wall, specially on those of parasitic, lazy males. And of course, he sulked when I said “no”, he said I was boring, I was selfish, I wasn’t cool, I was missing an opportunity, I was making him sad. He said he would start modelling the shack anyway, hoping that I’ll change my mind once I see it done. He tried to appeal for some sense of friendship we don’t even have, tried to make me feel like somehow I owe him that, that not doing what he wants me to do would mean I’m a bad person somehow.

I think it’s really interesting how a simple situation like this shows so much of how male entitlement works, and how being a feminist gave me the insight and the tools to dissect the instance and see exactly what this dude was going for.

And, most important of all, it gave me power to say “no” and not feel minimally bad about it.

This is a really good story for all my young female followers to read. I’ve seen my friends say “yes” in this situation too many times to count, and I want, I NEED my followers to know, that if you say “yes” to this kind of thing, it doesn’t end with respect, it doesn’t end with him later decide to pay for something he manipulated out of you for free. It ends with more and more demands. The more you say “yes”, the more they try to squeeze from you.

If any of you ever need to say “no” and you’re scared, remember that you’re not alone. I got your back.

15 puppies I was commissioned to draw for Daniel Solis’s new game. About puppies.
I think the corgi or the pom is my favorite

15 puppies I was commissioned to draw for Daniel Solis’s new game. About puppies.

I think the corgi or the pom is my favorite

I don’t think I’ve ever posted this picture on tumblr before. It’s from a few years ago, but I have it hanging on my living room wall. The landlord came to collect the rent just now and he really likes it, haha.

I don’t think I’ve ever posted this picture on tumblr before. It’s from a few years ago, but I have it hanging on my living room wall. The landlord came to collect the rent just now and he really likes it, haha.

I took this video so that you, too, could see what an average Sunday at 大公园 is like. I can hear all this from my apartment.

katherinewirick:

NEWS FLASH: Urban Outfitters has done something horrible and offensive.
UO does horrible, offensive things all the time; take a look if you don’t believe me. This time, though, it’s personal.
That kid up there, Bill Schroeder, was killed at Kent State. He was a friend of my father’s. They were in ROTC together. If it hadn’t been for a single meaningless choice, a roll of the dice, it could’ve been my dad instead of him.
I will give a free digital comic to ANYONE who publicly pledges to boycott UO and its subsidiary brands, Anthropologie, Free People, BHLDN, and Terrain.
They’re not selling the shirt anymore, and they’ve apologized (unconvincingly). The next group of people they dehumanize might not happen to include me. But it’s a sure bet they’re going to keep on being a moral cesspool. The best thing you and I can do, as far as I can figure it, is not shop there, and tell other people not to shop there. 
Here’s some info about the comic you’ll get. You can pledge here by reblogging, you can tweet @kwirick, or you can pledge on Facebook. I’ll send you the discount code.
Urban Outfitters made Bill Schroeder a joke. I want to introduce you to him as a person.

You don’t need to give me a free comic, I’ve never been in any of those stores anyway.
But this is a good time to introduce my followers to Katherine’s work, she is an awesome comic artist who writes about important historical subjects, like the Kent State massacre. Check her out.

katherinewirick:

NEWS FLASH: Urban Outfitters has done something horrible and offensive.

UO does horrible, offensive things all the time; take a look if you don’t believe me. This time, though, it’s personal.

That kid up there, Bill Schroeder, was killed at Kent State. He was a friend of my father’s. They were in ROTC together. If it hadn’t been for a single meaningless choice, a roll of the dice, it could’ve been my dad instead of him.

I will give a free digital comic to ANYONE who publicly pledges to boycott UO and its subsidiary brands, Anthropologie, Free People, BHLDN, and Terrain.

They’re not selling the shirt anymore, and they’ve apologized (unconvincingly). The next group of people they dehumanize might not happen to include me. But it’s a sure bet they’re going to keep on being a moral cesspool. The best thing you and I can do, as far as I can figure it, is not shop there, and tell other people not to shop there. 

Here’s some info about the comic you’ll get. You can pledge here by reblogging, you can tweet @kwirick, or you can pledge on Facebook. I’ll send you the discount code.

Urban Outfitters made Bill Schroeder a joke. I want to introduce you to him as a person.

You don’t need to give me a free comic, I’ve never been in any of those stores anyway.

But this is a good time to introduce my followers to Katherine’s work, she is an awesome comic artist who writes about important historical subjects, like the Kent State massacre. Check her out.

Done with my Beyond Anthology comic. Backgrounds came out lookin pretty great.

Done with my Beyond Anthology comic. Backgrounds came out lookin pretty great.

I did in fact write a short story featuring a parody of Richard Dawkins, in case anyone was wondering.

Hey fellow insomniac- saw your stuff in the TJ&AMALFanbook proof :D It’s so creepy! ;O;

Thanks! Always happy to creep people out.

I’m no insomniac, actually. Far from it, I go to bed around 10:30. It’s only 4:25pm right now where I am.

It’s that time of day where I’m tired of working, so I go on a lot of internet breaks and talk to people. And it’s always the same people awake at this hour. You know who you are. You frickin insomniacs.

I am Rational Intellectual, not like those Christians. I require SCIENTIFIC EVIDENCE before I believe something

by the way here is an article about how evolution made women dumb, based on anecdotes about my wife.

also Sadam had weapons of mass destruction because I say so.

period by KRUNK Interactive